While running errands, and checking each task off my things to-do list, I decided to browse the Bodhi Tree Bookstore on Melrose Avenue. While perusing books I noticed a sign that read, “Numerology Readings Today,” so I signed up. To my surprise nearly all of my reading was focused on my need to set clear, healthy boundaries.

The numerologist had said my boundary issues began in my childhood and were based on severe family dramas, and that I had internalized these issues, which grew into a pattern he termed the, “Beaver Cleaver Syndrome.” Meaning, I worked tirelessly to be, “the good kid,” behaving, never pushing against authority. I did this with the internal hope of avoiding confrontation and having to never say the dreaded, “N-O” word to anyone.

The bad news was, I had trouble setting boundaries with others. Based on my numbers, he said I could complete these boundary issues when I stopped saying yes to people who did not have my best interest at heart. I left the session appreciating how the Universe spotlighted healing boundaries for myself while writing a topic about it. My next mission was to find a place to write and just up the street was the Elixir Café.


The short walk had organized my thoughts and new perspective. Once inside the café I ordered an iced tea and began writing. I realized the first place we must establish healthy boundaries is inside ourselves. As Eckart Tolle says, “Get the inside right, and the outside will take care of itself.”

It’s true that our inner thoughts create our outer realities. That’s why we must clean up our inner dialogue by replacing our negative self-talk with positive self-talk. I’ve heard that humans habitually loop the same thoughts in their heads all day long. These recycled seedlings of negativity sprout during our childhood and can grow as tall and strong as a redwood forest in our golden years.

Today I think more positive feeling thoughts than ever before, BUT I still have an occasional negative thought or twelve, and the difference today is that I no longer accept that old negative programming as my truth. I see it as an accidental misstep, then flip the switch as quickly as possible.

For years, I too bought into the belief that I wasn’t smart enough or good enough to have an enriched happy life. It took me some time to vibrate my limiting thoughts out of my inner self, in order to make room for my new self-loving thoughts, feelings, and frequencies.


The day that I dared to say N-O to my disapproving self-talk I began to feel lighter. I even created a fun game that sweetly reminded me to take the high road. I call it, “The Fabulous 5 for 1 Game.”

Every time you have one negative thought about yourself, all you have to do is counteract it with five pure, positive thoughts that lift you up emotionally. You’ve heard the old expression, “One step forward, two steps back?” This game is equivalent to one step back and four steps forward! I suggest practicing this exercise. Let’s learn to “play it out” instead of trying hard to “work it out.”


When people you love ask you for advice about a serious issue in their lives, you don’t belittle them with a rampage of negativity. You don’t call them names or accuse them of being stupid, do you? Then why do we say bad things about ourselves, to ourselves?

Have you wondered how it is that we have endless volumes of love available to the world at large, BUT we don’t use it to uplift and nurture ourselves first? Alan Cohen says, “You can be helping many people...if you are not helping yourself, you have missed the one person you were born to heal.”

During our formative years, our belief systems are solidified based on what we can see and hear in our physical environments. As we were pulled further away from our true inner guidance system, we lost trust in ourselves and we placed our self-worth and value onto others.


Today I invite you to stand proud and celebrate your personal magnificence to the world around you. Establish healthy boundaries and “play it out” with the Fabulous 5 for 1 Game. When we choose to stand in the spotlight of our soul we don’t have to worry about boundaries as much as we have to be open to receive the greatness the universe has in store for us. Plus, each new-found boundary you achieve uplifts you, people you love, and the world at large. How can you possibly go wrong?

In closing, please let love into your heart. Stand in the healing power of your soul-self. Allow your love light to shine on YOU! Because even us spiritual people need to set loving boundaries in order to achieve the happiness and healing we desire. And, until next time, remember to keep your thoughts, feelings, and frequencies high, fast, and pure so that you can Unlock the Universe Within.

With Sincere Appreciation,




Whether you’re planning a trip around the world or a simple hike near your home, it’s essential to line up your invisible attributes before you walk out the door.


“How to Get Your Travel Freq On,” helps readers line up their energy in order to manifest happy travel experiences. This workbook/journal is filled with hi-frequency travel tips, personal stories, affirmations, quotes, and feeling prompts. Each tip helps bring an intuitive awareness back to your heart, mind, and soul’s essence to blend your physical body and environment with your deeper human soul, while traveling through this world – and beyond. Available at Amazon.com.

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